In this video, Acupunturist Marc Sklar, the fertility expert, tackles some of the most common questions couples have about sex when trying to conceive; How often should we have sex? What are the best sex positions to get pregnant? Should women stay in bed after sex to improve chances of getting pregnant?
Pregnancy happens when a sperm from the man reaches an egg inside the woman. When the sperm reaches the egg, the two cells join in a process called fertilization. The fertilized egg then travels into the woman’s uterus and implants into the lining where it grows into a baby.
Women usually produce a single egg each month. The egg is released from her ovary during a process called ovulation. If she wishes to become pregnant her chances are best if she has sex during the time of her ovulation.
When does ovulation occur?
Women have a cycle that lasts about a month. This cycle begins with her period, the time each month when she bleeds. A little over a week after she finishes her period, she will ovulate, or release a new egg. At that time, she is able to become pregnant. After a few days, if the egg is not fertilized, her body will begin to release the lining in the uterus and she will start to bleed. This starts the cycle all over again.
When should you have sex if you want to get pregnant?
The best time to have sex if you want to become pregnant is in the middle of the woman’s cycle, near to the time when she is ovulating. If her cycle is regular, Dr Sklar recommends the best time to have sex is about 13 days after the beginning of her period. Periods usually last 3 -5 days, so day 13 of the cycle is about a week after her period. Ideally, you should have sex every other day during that week to maximize your chances of conceiving.
Can having sex multiple times a day increase your chances of getting pregnant?
Actually, having sex multiple times a day may decrease your chances. Men are constantly producing sperm. Each time he ejaculates, the man will release a lot of the sperm he has made. If he ejaculates multiple times a day, his sperm count for each ejaculation will be a lower than normal. It is best to try to hold off and have sex just once a day or every other day to give the sperm a chance to replenish.
What is the best position for sex when trying to get pregnant?
Dr. Sklar really did a great job explaining this. His answer is, it depends. If your cervix is normal, than any position that you enjoy will be just fine. If the cervix is abnormal than some positions will be better than others. How can you tell if your cervix is normal? You should visit your Ob-Gyn (Obstetrics & Gynaecologist) and ask them to tell you the position of your cervix.
Do women need to lay in bed after sex to improve their chances of getting pregnant?
It is not necessary for a woman to lay in bed or raise her hips after sex. It is natural for some of the semen to come out. This doesn’t mean that the sperm will come out too.
How long does it take to get pregnant?
Young, healthy couples have about a 25% chance of getting pregnant on any given month. So everything being normal, 1 out of every 4 months may result in conception. Like rolling dice though, it could happen on the 1st try, or on the 10th. As you get older, the chances start to go down. meaning that it can take even longer. In general, doctors recommend that if you don’t get pregnant after a year of trying, you should get evaluated for fertility issues.
Would you like some advice to help you get pregnant?
Dr Sklar works with patients all over the world. He offers an online fertility school that can teach you everything you need to know to get pregnant. He also does 1 on 1 remote consultations. Learn more
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