Over the past several years, several experts in male fertility have come together during the week before father’s day to talk about men’s health & fertility in an online summit called Making Dads. Discussions were filmed and transcribed and are now being offered in an e-book that covers a wide range of topics related to family building from the male perspective. Our editor Sara Naab, SaraSDx, was a co-host in the Making Dad’s summit and shared her wisdom on how health and habits can impact a man’s reproductive health. Here is a brief excerpt from her talk on Don’t Cook your Balls and other commandments for making healthy sperm:
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Kristen: Hi, everyone! It’s Tuesday of our amazing week Making Dads Summit. I’m so excited that I have my Sara all to myself for a little while. We’re going to share within our conversation, bringing some of the pieces that we’ve been talking about already together into practical applications.
It’s my pleasure and honor to introduce and have this special time with Sara Naab who is my partner in crime and co-host. I am so grateful we came together a year ago to band together to talk about the men in our lives and to bring focus to our husbands, brothers, and uncles.
Thank you, Sara, for joining in this conversation two years in a row and, hopefully, many more. Why don’t you fill us in about what you’re up to? I know that you’re deep in your study and all the amazing offerings that you have through the website, Don’t Cook Your Balls. Hi, my friend!
Sara: Hi! This has been an awesome week. I love being a yin-and-yang pair with you. You really cover emotional and mind, holistic kind of approach to things. I really focused on empowering control over health and wellness and looking at both the medical side and the self-lifestyle improvement aspects to your health. I think the two of us together really bring a great pair to talk about this big problem that no one really talks about. I’m honored to do this with you and I love doing it with you. You’re so fun.
Kristen: I so appreciate you. Within your divine feminine way of being in the world you also have this amazing, intuitive way of just targeting and getting into the heart of an issue for the divine masculine. I’m so grateful we’re on opposite ends of the country because I think if we were together physically, we would be in a lot of trouble. This whole buffer zone between both coasts, that’s a good thing.
Sara: Yes, I think you’re right. We get into enough trouble being on opposite ends of the country in different time zones. Who knows what we would do if we were actually in the same place.
Kristen: What I love about your story and what brought you to be so active within the men’s health community is that you walk your talk. You are using your wisdom that you’ve gained through your own personal experience and that of living with so many brothers about coming from that heart-centered place of really caring for not only your immediate family but also our global family for men. That’s why I’m excited for you to share about the website, www.DontCookYourBalls.com, and what you have done to – I don’t know the acronym for sparkling it up for men – but you manned it up.
Sara: Yes. We started Don’t Cook Your Balls two years ago now. When I got into this space and started looking at male side, I realized that the information was not very good. There were a few articles on WebMD and they weren’t very detailed. They didn’t really give any guidance. I was imagining if this was my brother and he had this condition and he was out looking for information trying to understand what to do, there just wasn’t good information online.
As I dug deeper, I realized that most men are not getting treated either and they’re not getting seen by doctors. This is what we were talking about Dr. Turek, men don’t get the care. There’s a problem with fertility, and let’s just figure out what kind of assisted reproduction we need to do to get the sperm into the egg to make a pregnancy happen because that is the outcome that we’re medically looking for.
But there’s a reason. There’s something going on. That guy is at a place of vulnerability, wondering what’s happening with his body and he’s not getting answers and he’s frustrated. But he’s not going to say a thing because that’s not what guys do. They don’t push out and try to go, “I don’t understand this. What’s going on?”
I just felt so upset for the guys who are going through this that they’re not getting the care, they’re not getting the answers, and as I read blogs I just got even more fired up. I felt like my own testosterone was going through the roof. I was getting mad for these guys.
Kristen: You were cooking your balls, man! You had to get on that!
Sara: I started thinking, we talked in the past that guys don’t get care unless they’re bleeding. But there’s this desire in men to become fathers. It’s just, “I’m going to be a dad someday!” If that’s taken away, it’s one thing to talk about my future health. Maybe in some 50,000 years I’m going to die of whatever. I don’t care about stopping smoking for that because I’m going to die anyway, so I might as well live my life. But you can’t be a dad, that’s a chance. That’s a moment where a guy really connects with himself and his body and what’s going on. I feel like it’s such an opportunity that we really need to be there for these men.
Kristen: I love how you language. We come together, the yin and the yang. I language very softly and you’re like, “Roar!” I love that about us and we have come together about it.
What is so amazing, before we talked, I actually read a little clip. We’re in June and it’s Men’s Health Week, but they’re also talking about being outside and how drowning is a quiet act. Drowning is a silent act. I thought to myself, “Oh, my gosh!” The analogy about men’s fertility, the way some men approach the diagnosis of infertility is a silent act. In a way, they’re drowning with this burden that there’s so much help out there.
I love how you made those awesome little videos and how you address this through your blogging. Not only that, how you’re on the leading edge of meeting the need through the technology of what you’re doing for in-home testing because of that, because of their silence and also because of the stigma that has to be erased for this and still is a work in progress.
Maybe if you could just talk about in your expertise, in your especially unique niche, what are the three things that you find drive men to click on Don’t Cook Your Balls? What is the reason that you’re seeing the traffic come to your amazing site?
Sara: It’s interesting. I think it’s amazing what men Google. These have to be men because the searches are things like “shrinking balls” or “icy hot and my balls.” Just things that you can tell that something is going on with him and he’s not sure what that means, so he’s just putting in stuff to try to understand his body a little bit.
To purchase Making Dads visit http://www.kristendarcy.com/making-dads-ebook/ or to learn more about the Marking Dads Summit, visit www.kristendarcy. To learn more about how you can take steps to improve your reproductive health, check out Trak Fertility.